Discussion thread: how are you dressing for the male gaze?
Are you dressing at any point for the male gaze? Did that feel available to you? If not, how did you move away from it? If you’re not heterosexual, was there still any part of you that felt you needed to conform in some way?
As I mentioned in Tuesday’s post, I dressed for the male gaze for at least 15-20 years. Getting married changed that for me. I didn’t feel the need to compete or draw anyone in with my body. Ugh, ugh, ugh, this feels so gross to say!
My husband respects my style choices, but if he’s being honest, is not into my “shapeless sack” (his words) wardrobe. I disregard his opinion 99% of the time and he has never said a negative word or pressured me to dress any other way. However, on date nights, I do try to wear something that caters a bit to his taste, i.e. shows the shape of my body.
Where are you with this?