style ama: how much effort do I want to put into my appearance?

and am I doing it for myself or others?

When I started reading the comments on the prompt for this AMA (ask me anything), I got a little teary eyed. One person posted a question that no less than ten others immediately jumped in to say that it was something they struggled with too (I’ve included a few throughout this post) and then they all offered their support and gentle advice for the original question asker. Honestly, some of their advice was so good that I considered just making the AMA a space for the group to ask questions and get each other’s advice instead of mine! 

And also, when is someone going to ask an easy question?! 😫🤪

Here’s the question everyone related to:

I feel like I know my personal style pretty well. Through the influence of your work and just becoming more accepting of the current state of my body (instead of considering my body to be an infinite project of improvement), I cleaned out my closet, edited my wardrobe, and bought some new pieces that fit well and express my style. My issue is that some d…