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Amy E. Harth, PhD's avatar

I appreciate this. I don’t know why but I picture everyone having a glamorous and busy (but somehow easy for them) life that is like something out of an episode of LA Law. Lots of briefcases and shoulder pads! I have no idea why this is my default image for “grownups” who are not me. Maybe because my mom worked in law and I just assumed that TV show (which she loved) was “real life” from a very young age. Suffice it to say, this helps me feel like a real person - chronic illness, neurodivergence, and insomnia included!

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Dacy Gillespie's avatar

It's definitely hard to allow myself permission to rest. Sending you solidarity!

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Ginger Stampley's avatar

Another chronic illness buddy saluting your ability to get things done!

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Tortoise's avatar

Thank you so much for detailing a few days of your current life, moments, etc. Selfishly, your description made me feel less alone, adrift. My ADHD (executive function disorder), plus depression/dysthymia and some specific grieving, has combined to create a hailstorm in my head. No motivation, no time-keeping abilities, no desire to do anything besides sit in one spot for hours. No starts, no finishes but loads of self-grumbles. I've already transited through the disruptions of peri- and menopause, so I've no idea why things are so hard in my body these days. But it feels like decades of masking, 'doing,' and interacting have finally extracted all my 'get up and go.'

I hope your morning me-time and time outside (not this week? ugh, hot!) is restorative!

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Dacy Gillespie's avatar

If it made you feel less alone, then it was worth writing ❤️

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Alison J. Glapa's avatar

My life improved tremendously (in a million ways) when I quit watching TV. The last prime time show I watched was St. Elsewhere (Howie Mandel and Denzel Washington were new actors then and you probably weren't born yet). I had a pre-schooler and an infant and knew I couldn't do grad school well and watch TV. It's been over 35 years. The best decision. Ever.

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Anita Darcel Taylor's avatar

Best medical series ever.

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Dacy Gillespie's avatar

that is so smart!

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Alison J. Glapa's avatar

However, when you admit that to others, you are considered somewhat of a freak. However, I do love watching NFL football now; weird, I know.

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Amy E. Harth, PhD's avatar

I don’t watch TV either! And yes, people do react like I just grew a third hand out of my forehead but it gives me plenty of time to read. 😎

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Alison J. Glapa's avatar

Right?!

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Meghan Burke's avatar

I am here to help defend AJLT. The incredible Sam Irby is one of their writers; it's a reunion with characters who feel like old friends; it's eye candy; it's pleasure. Do men have to defend their dumb movies or endless {insert sports drivel} here? Usually not. You simply get to enjoy it, as do many (myself included). Good enough.

I also appreciate you sharing about your neurotype and normalizing the regular life things that interweave with our work and efforts toward productivity. It's important to normalize all of this!

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Liz's avatar

I came here to say the same thing! It feels like dunking on AJLT is the “thing” to do right now, but it’s honestly the only show I look forward to. Enjoy it if you enjoy it!

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Dacy Gillespie's avatar

i'm so glad you're here to defend! I do love sam irby. i don't think i'm downplaying it because i'm embarassed, i'm happy to talk proudly all day about below deck. I just don't really like it, but can't not watch because of my attachment to the characters! however, i hadn't considered how it might come across, so thank you!

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Bethany's avatar

You've articulated what I felt, but haven't yet put into words? I'm also attached to the characters, but no longer like them. Somehow they replicated most of the old series with the exception of charm?

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Amanda's avatar
4dEdited

Love your post, and love my induction stove!!!

Also as someone with both ADHD and chronic illness, I see you and the rockstar you are!

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Dacy Gillespie's avatar

aw, thanks amanda! glad to hear it about the induction!

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