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After sharing

Brianna Campos
’s style story last week, I wanted to share this piece of writing from almost three years ago when I was working through some body grief of my own with her help. Content warning: this post is about my process of grieving the loss of a smaller body and unlearning anti-fat bias, while still being in a straight sized body with an immense amount of thin privilege. It may not be helpful for those who have experienced anti-fat bias their whole lives. This is my experience as a cisgender, hetero, (edited to add) able-bodied, white woman. There are many things I’m afraid to get wrong. I am sitting in that discomfort and I’m always willing to learn from my mistakes.

originally published January 2022

My body is changing. It’s changed before and I accepted it. Thinking that I should look the same way throughout my life doesn't align with my values. Not only do I not think bodies shouldn't change, I reject the idea that smaller bodies are more worthy, more beautiful, more stylish, or …

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