maybe the answer is tailoring
even if it's intimidating
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Four things happened in the same week.
A reader asked me the question below in an AMA.
A close friend was searching for pants that fit her waist-to-hip ratio.
An Instagram video of mine went mini-viral.
And while prepping for a podcast interview with Brianna Campos, I came across this video from Mighty Murphin Power Ranger.
Here’s the reader question:
“I’d be curious to learn more about how you support people who have a very hard time finding anything that remotely fits. I think that’s probably my biggest barrier when it comes to editing things in my closet. This has been especially hard as my body has changed over the last few years.
I might not love it, and it might not even fit all that well, but it’s still as close as I can get and somewhat functions as clothing, if you know what I mean.
Perhaps I just need to find a good tailor (why is that so stressful?) and budget that in to the process. And/or maybe I need to find the replacement items first so I feel safe letting go of the sad “make-do” items taking up space in my closet?”
My Instagram post was about how unsurprising it is that mass-produced clothing doesn’t fit our unique bodies, and there were many great comments about the need for alterations.
In Christine (a.k.a. Mighty Murphin Power Ranger)’s post, she spoke about trying on dresses and getting them tailored as just a matter of fact. I also follow a British woman with dwarfism who tailors every single item. The transformations are amazing. As for my friend, she eventually found pants she liked that fit, but my first suggestion was that she’d probably have to get something tailored.
My answer to the reader-submitted question above would be yes, find replacements for the make-do items before letting them go, and yes, find a tailor.
Are you seeing a pattern?
Unfortunately, I’m not sure there’s anything more daunting to deal with in our wardrobes than getting something tailored. There are a bunch of hurdles to jump: it’s expensive, it takes extra time and effort, your body might continue to change, and sometimes it feels just plain impossible to find a tailor.
To be honest, even as someone who deals with clothes for a living, I’m still a bit intimidated by tailoring. My frugal background is hard to push through, and in addition, I’ve been burned badly a couple of times.
Once, a dress I’d paid about $150 for was taken in way too much, and the tailor hadn’t left any seam allowance, so it couldn’t be fixed. That was from a tailor that my most snazzily dressed male friend recommended.
Another seemingly trustworthy recommendation from a friend who ran a designer consignment shop also turned out to be a disaster. I was working with a local bride who was wearing a white suit, and at that (highly recommended) tailor, the jacket also got taken in too much. I believe we ended up going with the suit jacket open and a colorful blouse underneath, but honestly, I’m not sure because it was such a stressful situation, I blocked it out.
I finally have two tailors in town that I recommend, but it took ten years to find them (granted, I wasn’t looking all that time). The one that is most convenient for me has fees that feel a little painful. I paid $50 to have a pair of pants taken in, and most recently, I paid $72 to have a voluminous formal dress hemmed. From what I’ve seen from content creators around the country, those prices are high, especially for a midwestern city, but at least I’m not (too) worried my garments will get ruined.
So I get it. I really do.
Also, I think tailoring may be one of the most practical ways to get clothes that fit1 and push back against overconsumption.
Fast fashion values speed, disposability, and profit margins over people.
Tailoring is slow, intentional, and human.
It’s a big mindset shift to start including the cost of tailoring into garments, but here are a few arguments for it:
You’re building a relationship with a local tradesperson in your community.
That skilled tradesperson is getting paid fairly for their work.
If you’re considering in adding the cost of tailoring, you have to be more thoughtful about what you buy.
More secondhand garments and garments in your own closet that never get worn could have a second life.
There’s no impulse or instant gratification; you have to wait to see the results — the epitome of slow fashion.
You’re able to get a better fit.
Could tailoring be a middle way? Could it be the closest thing we can get to the opposite of fast fashion?
In order for this to work, we have to start taking tailoring as a given, like Christine does. When we’re buying clothes, we should automatically add in the cost of tailoring, just as we would shipping or sales tax. If you buy a formal wedding dress, you expect to add the cost of tailoring, so why not clothes we actually wear more than once?
We also have to value clothing differently. In this piece, I mention how the percentage of Americans’ income spent on clothing has dropped drastically since globalization. Clothes used to cost more. People bought fewer items. They wore them longer. Alterations were expected — the cost was mentally built in. Ironically, we now spend much less per item but expect it to fit off the rack.
There is much to learn about the actual process of tailoring and what things can and can’t be altered. The best person to ask is always the tailor. I’m not an expert, but here’s what I’ve learned: